The Menopause And Friendship - A Survival Guide 

Are you finding yourself getting irritated and annoyed at your friends for no reason?

Everything they say, or do, just winds you up.

It can feel really upsetting, especially if this is happening with friends you’ve known for years.

You may be wondering what is going on with me.

But your disconnection from those you love could be due to the menopause. 

And you’re not alone. Research has found that more than 80% of women experience physical or psychological symptoms around menopause, with  Depression and other mood changes, amongst the most frequently reported symptoms.

What’s going on?

How does the menopause affect your mood?

One minute you’re laughing the next your crying—welcome to the menopause.

These emotional changes are partly due to the hormone oestrogen, which begins to decline in our bodies as we enter the perimenopause.

Amongst its many functions, oestrogen regulates the mood-balancing chemical serotonin. So, when oestrogen levels drop, consequently, serotonin levels dip too. And the result is we feel sad, depressed, and tearful. 

Together with other menopausal symptoms like hot flushes, sleeplessness and low libido, life can feel like an exhausting emotional roller coaster.

So, it’s no surprise the menopause can put pressure on your friendships, regardless of how strong they are.

How to reconnect with your friends during the menopause?

Friendship is good for your health and well-being. As human we crave connection as social beings. This is even more important when you’re going through a life transition. For instance a study at the University of Michigan found close bonds between women actually boost levels of the stress-busting hormone progesterone.

Here a few tips to help you nurture your friendships while going through the menopause.

#1 Talk about it

If you’re feeling negative emotions toward your friends, don’t go silent and internalise them. Be honest about them. Talking about the menopause will help your friends will help them understand what you’re going through and explain why you’re acting the way you are. It’ll also be easier for them to support you during this time. And, you never know, they might be in the same boat as you. 

#2 Do positive activities

Instead of the usual Friday night in a pub drinking, organise healthy and positive meetups. For instance, do a sport together like running or a yoga class. Or arrange a day out in the countryside. By doing something nice together, you can start to rebuild your rapport and friendship bond.  

#3 Be self-aware

Blaming others for how you feel, will only leave you more isolated from the ones your love. Try to practice self-awareness. For instance, if you start to feel angry or upset, remove yourself from the situation—it’s okay to leave early or take a rain check if you’re not up for it. Just don’t lie. Be honest about how you’re feeling. And make sure you re-arrange. 

Looking after your physical and emotional health is really important during the menopause. Alongside, eating a healthy balanced diet and exercising regularly, for extra support try taking our Kira Menopause relief supplement.  

Kira Menopause relief is a traditional herbal product, made with finest Black cohosh (a remedy used for hundreds of years) which has traditionally been used to help relieve these symptoms and which may help you view the menopause as a new stage in your life, not the end of it.